Being a stay at home Parent

Do you ever feel frustrated with society’s attitude towards moms and babies?
The world seems to be pushing babies to be mini adults. Why can’t we let babies be babies? And moms are expected to be 14 different things at once.
I am very happy it’s 2008 and not 1948 where the only “correct” type of mother has 3 or 4 kids, cleans the house, cooks a three-course dinner for her husband every night, and still manages to look good.
It is great that we’ve progressed from only one type of mom. Modern mothers can be working moms, stay at home moms, work at home moms, then there’s stay at home dads.
Working moms are deservedly praised for managing work and home and motherhood – and much respect to you if that’s what you do. It is not an easy task by any means.
But now it’s the stay-at-home moms who are getting the hard times. I’ve been asked a couple of times lately why I didn’t want to have a job. Or what interests do I have apart from my son and his disabilities and my other two children.? Like being a stay-at-home mom is somehow second-rate to moms who go to work, or jet set around the world like Madonna.
Clearly being a stay-at-home mom is a job, and much more work than many jobs that require you to get dressed and go to an office every day. Trying to balance kids the house, homework and other issues on top of appointments and a child with special needs is not a easy thing to do at all.It’s also the best and only job I want to have. And it’s the most interesting thing I do. Watching my son grow up, and learn new things is fascinating, rewarding, and fills me with joy every second of every day.
There’s nothing second-rate about being a stay-at-home mom. Moms of all types – working, work at home, stay-at-home, whatever you do – are all equally loving, wonderful mothers doing the very best for their children.
Stay-at-home moms deserve just as much praise as any other type of mom, and if you’ve decided to devote this time of your life to your children and your family, you’ve made a great decision. Children are only small for such a short time, and I don’t want to waste this precious time working (even though money is tight) or doing things for me at the expense of spending time with my son (although I did give him to Daddy and spent a half an hour in the bath tub just relaxing gathering my mind..
I’ve found the right balance for me and my family. I hope that you have too, and perhaps if you are reading this and have been feeling pressured to do more than be a stay at home mom, take a deep breath, and think about it – what makes you happiest in all the world? Being with your children? Then ignore the pressure, and
carry on giving your whole heart to being a stay-at-home mom or dad.